Children experience stress and anxiety in ways we don’t always recognize as parents. Whether children are home with parents during a quarantine, or learning what life is like in the middle of a divorce of those parents, how to help children manage their stress and anxiety is an important question for all parents. As an attorney working in the area of family law, children going through difficult times is not unusual, however, quarantine is and it became all too apparent that I needed help in learning how to talk to my children about what’s happening in the world.
Is a divorce more stressful than doing a prison term? According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale (The Stress Test), divorce is only trumped by the death of a spouse on the level of stress experienced. And yes, Divorce scores 10 points higher than a Jail Term on the index. Not to be left behind a Marital Separation also scored above jail in terms of its stressful impact. These scores are referenced by T.H. Holmes and T.H. Rahe within “The Social Readjustment Rating Scale,” published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research in 1967. Not much has changed in the 43 years since the scale was published. Divorce is still stressful, but what can be done to navigate it more successfully, so you don’t have the negative health impact that comes with such stress?
Over the past month, the Coronavirus (COVID-19) has had a dramatic impact on the lives of Americans. Oklahomans have not been immune and have begun to realize a more significant impact of the disease as the number of those impacted continues to rise.
In most cases, a child support computation is statutorily defined so long as husband and wife make less than $15,000.00 in combined gross (pretax) income. However, in cases where monthly income is above this $15,000.00 combined amount, the computation of child support is left to the discretion of the court, and as such, will vary significantly on a case-by-case basis. While most guidelines for child support cases reflect a level of income that is likely to continue at the same levels existing at the time of the award, how much to award when those levels are likely to change, such as in the case of a professional athlete, is an open question requiring a different method of computation and additional considerations.
The coronavirus pandemic is creating some of the more unique issues for our family law courts that we have ever experienced. The Coronavirus Aid, Relief, and Economic Security Act (“CARES Act”) that was enacted last Friday will not likely reduce issues that must be resolved when courts reopen for business. Two pressing issues created by the coronavirus relief bill involve child support payments and the relief payments for children.
Shared parenting is difficult enough, but during this or any time of uncertainty, it is even more difficult. Here are some tips and guidelines to make shared parenting during the COVID-19 pandemic less stressful.
When deciding on the right type of adoption for your family, research is key. Without understanding the pros and cons of each, you can't make an informed decision. Take a look at our tips on adoption research, then begin your journey by downloading our free eBook, Types of Adoptions in Oklahoma.
Divorce can be one of the hardest decisions you make in your life. While many fear the turbulence and adjustments the entire family will endure in the wake of separation, sometimes divorce can be best for everyone involved. While we aim to ensure you’re making the right decision for your family, here are a few ways children can actually benefit from the divorce process.
Divorce is common these days – even celebrities can’t seem to escape unscathed. It’s tough to be in the spotlight, and stars often deal with the repercussions of a very public breakup (immediately and in painstaking detail, thanks to social media). And, like us, some of the famous figures we admire learn the hard way that a “conscious uncoupling” may be the best way to resolve an unhappy marriage. Here, we’ve listed a few of the messiest celebrity divorces in the last 20 years (and how to avoid some of the mistakes they made):